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Thursday, May 13, 2010


"Start telling a better-feeling story about the things that are important to you. Do not write your story like a factual documentary, weighing all the pros and cons of your experience, but instead tell the uplifting, fanciful, magical story of the wonder of your own life and watch what happens. It will feel like magic as your life begins to transform right before yours eyes, but it is not by magic. It is by the power of the Laws of the Universe and your deliberate alignment with those Laws."
– Abraham

You can create Each Individual Day. And you can create the larger picture of YOUR STORY. I do both. I am an extremely early riser and that time is the transformative part of my entire day. If morning is not your best time, find another. Call it a Spiritual Practice. Call it a ritual. Call it Herman, I don't care. Just have FUN.

The more you Enjoy this, the more you see Magic unfolding. No exaggeration. It's Creating Your Life Story as though your were writing a character in a book. Except it's you. It is meant to be pleasurable, not a chore. Pleasure is Key. Play with it, tweak it, mean it, watch it unfold.

When people manifest fabulous lives, they'll say to me, I don't believe it! And I remind them of the conviction and focus they had, the joy, the trust. They became immersed in the journey itself. They were thrilled by the journey. How could they Not manifest! That's how it's done, Sweetie. Own it. Become It. Have a giggle. Oh yeah, yes, yessie.


It's one thing to recognize a Truth. To have this Knowing is sheer bliss. The next step to creating the new paradigm is Owning It. How? Practice, what else?

We practice to create new neuro pathways in our brain. The stronger those pathways become, the more automatic the habit. And as we practice the new habit, the old electrical pathways in our brain break down, disperse. We are creatures of habit. Be careful what you choose. Neuro pathways can be strong. Use the Mind to choose the new pathway over the old, i.e. Use the Mind to Change the Mind. Outstanding stuff.

We practice to build a skill, like learning the scales on a piano. Or golf: practice your swing. Over and over. Skill can become Art. Start small, Think Big. Bigger, hon!

Listen: All I ever do is practice. I'm a practicing machine. I'm practicing as I write this I'm practicing with every single person who appears before me as a client. I give them everything I've got. You think I'm in agony spending all this time. I'm high as a kite. Work, yes. Bliss, yes. Approaching Laugh Riot.

When we teach by example, we are practicing what we want to learn. Get happier and happier. Let your life be your proof. Walk Your Talk. It's on the wing. It's airborne. You're an aerodynamically moveable feast. You're loaded with Light and Yummy to be around!



I just remember when I was young, there was clearly – from the father – such a negative feeling coming across all the time. He had to be boss, had to have the power.

He met his match. I was clever and determined. I had pincurls of peroxided hair hidden beneath my other hair. I shaved my legs when it was considered too soon for that sort of behavior! I smoked mentholated cigarettes called Newports in a cool ocean blue and white box. I wore short kilts and flirted with older boys through classroom windows and was sent home from school by a sadistic principal. I did whatever I wanted. I was also an A student. That got me extra rope on my leash. Smart doggie.

Gosh, I can no longer remember the name of the child-rearing book that advocated never saying No to your children. In theory I totally got it. If a kid is reared with constant No, imagine what you have given her/him as a legacy from the authority figures in their lives; imagine the deficit in their self esteem for most kids! I was fine with a bully when I was young, but there were ramifications later. So I advocate a YES approach 100%.

Listen, this is the catch: Saying Yes takes more time. Saying No is way easier. But there's no payoff. You are not helping to create a happy YES human being. On hindsight, I see my cliche case: I was like the parents who say No, but then relinquish. So sloppy. Ultimately, my daughter won out with begging, whining, crying, tantrum. She became a pro at never accepting No, even when No meant No. I had been inadvertently teaching her to hold out. I created a drama queen. It was exhausting. Madonna!!

What was suggested in the book, was to say No in such a way as to appeal to a child's sense of reason: perhaps there would be negotiations, caveats, so forth, but without actually saying the unfathomable word. Never– shhh! is kind of like saying Voldemort –unspeakable.

But too much talk is also fatal. Before you have finished your spiel, your child is in another time zone and you are a distant talking head. Thea would say things like: Too much information, mom, I canʼt hear you anymore. Her window of time for receptivity was approximately thirty seconds. Oy Vey! Your child, as I have attested, is your biggest guru. She is also the devil incarnate.

Yet, when I took that extra moment to go into the zone – take a breath, forgo the reactive behavior – everything worked so smoothly. Ultimately, it's also the easier way.


We are made from the same clay! We are all entangled.

Listen, this is what I mean: The people who serve you day after day – you may be one of them – the banker, the baker, the doctor, the lawyer, the waitress, the cashier, the grocer, etc – practice SEEING people. Take a second to remember what they are:
" unwavering band of White Light"
–Kurt Vonnegut
...just like you!

I know, I know, I know about impossible I'm not one of them! Right. But that's surface stuff. Forget about that. I'm speaking of simple acknowledgement.

I'm speaking about what the quantum physicists call Entanglement. A fancy word for what Yogis in caves have known since forever: We are all One. Some of us know that, but the actual experience of it most often eludes us. It does not matter. Acknowledge their Divinity. Itʼs just like yours! See them! Or pretend to see them. With an open heart, it will work any old way. Tip your hat to them, so to speak. The Hindus say Namaste with a small bow of the head. Namaste means I honor the God within you, which is the same as the God within me.

Make the present moment Sacred. Make it Heaven on Earth. I'm not talking Love at First Sight. How about this:

"Please – a little less love, and a little more common decency."
–Kurt Vonnegut


There can be serious, deeper deprivations, core betrayals, unconscionable NOs with which people burden their entire existences.

A man I cared for deeply, devoted himself to work in the burn unit of New York Hospital. His work was inestimable in the eyes of many. But I knew it wasn't his work. I knew it within the first week of our relationship. If you pay close attention to a person when you first know them, there are intuitions to be trusted. I said, "You do realize this is not your work, don't you?" Shocked, he bolted from his chair and said. "What are you talking about? How would you know that? What might I have said..." I could not answer him, but I was correct. He was meant to be a writer. Though his work was valuable, he went against his Soul. He died at age 52.

I can give you half a dozen personal examples of people who have betrayed their Core. They said NO to their inner voice, their Soul. They paid with their lives. You will not survive well becoming a ...milkman, postman, beggar man, thief, doctor, lawyer, Indian chief... if what you really want to do is paint pictures.

Again, I reference The Bard:

"This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man."
–Shakespeare, Hamlet

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  1. Loved your post, Grace! Thanks for sharing from your soul with your characteristically warm and sunny self shining through. Wonderful reminders to embrace the feeling of internal YES whilst still being aware of when we're trying to force something into a yes. Thank you!

  2. Thank you, Grace, I love you! You make me smile and laugh and say YES!

  3. Yes Mama!


  4. Hi Grace!
    Received your newsletter. Absolutely great! absolutely timely for me, right on target---yes, yes, yes!!!

    Have a great day, and thanks for the wonderful newsletter.

    Love, Nancy Williams

  5. You are fabulous, funny and authentic. The perfect message at the perfect time!


    Atlanta, GA

  6. Dear Grace,
    You deserve the best!


  7. Dear Darling Grace,
    Karilee Shames writing you from our little casita in mexico. What a sweet inspirational message with beautiful pictures.

    Keep up the great work, you are so cute! Karilee & Family

  8. Yes Grace...
    Yes to the vortex of desire and always seeking more and never giving up. Your message made me laugh and I resonated with lots of it. I will be more of a Yessie!
    Much love here for you, Kathy

  9. Grace, Your newsletter is great! I've just read the May issue and see some of your biographical info and how you just keep going when life sometimes gives kus lemons and you make lemonade> Dale