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SEED SUBJECT OF THIS MONTH:

FORGIVENESS
the gold ring

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Forgiveness: the gold ring

ADDITIONAL QUOTATIONS

Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has
crushed it.
–Mark Twain

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
–Mahatma Gandhi

Life is an adventure in forgiveness.
–Norman Cousins

Forgiveness is the final form of love.
–Reinhold Niebuhr

One forgives to the degree that one loves.
–Francois de la Rochefoucauld

For my part, I believe in the forgiveness of sins and the redemption of ignorance.
–Adlai E. Stevenson

Forgiveness is the remission of sins. For it is by this that what has been lost, and was found, is saved from being lost again.
–Saint Augustine

Forgiveness means letting go of the past.
–Gerald Jampolsky

God will forgive me. It’s his job.
–Heinrich Heine


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Monday, August 23, 2010

Fellini On Belief


Not believing is exhausting.
Setting roadblocks, limiting oneself.

Believing is a form of expectation.
I’m always expecting something. I don’t know what.
I recognize myself here.
I don’t mean to lend a mystical connotation.
I just mean a state of the soul, a sensing in everyday life,
that this feeling of Belief, of Expectation, never leaves me.
–Federico Fellini


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Sunday, July 11, 2010

Creating My Day

– Dr. Joe Dispenza , Evolving Your Brain
www.drjoedispenza.com


"I wake up in the morning and I consciously create my day the way I want it to happen. Now sometimes, because my mind is examining all the things that I need to get done, it takes me a little bit to settle down and get to the point of where I'm actually intentionally creating my day. But here's the thing: When I create my day and out of nowhere little things happen that are so unexplainable, I know that they are the process or the result of my creation. And the more I do that, the more I build a neural net in my brain that I accept that that's possible. (This) gives me the power and the incentive to do it the next day.

"So if we're consciously designing our destiny, and if we're consciously from a spiritual standpoint throwing in with the idea that our thoughts can affect our reality or affect our life -- because reality equals life -- then I have this little pact that I have when I create my day. I say, 'I'm taking this time to create my day and I'm affecting the quantum field. Now if (it) is, in fact, that the Observer (of ALL life) is watching me the whole time that I'm doing this and there is a spiritual aspect to myself, then show me a sign today that you paid attention to any one of these things that I created. And bring them in a way that I won't expect, so I'm surprised at my ability to be able to experience these things. And make it so that I have no doubt that it's come from You. And so I live my life, in a sense, all day long thinking about being a genius or thinking about being the glory and the power of God or thinking about being unconditional love.  

"I'll use living as a genius, for example. And as I do that, during parts of the day, I'll have thoughts that are so amazing, that cause a chill in my physical body, that have come from nowhere. But then I remember that that thought has an associated energy that's produced an effect in my physical body. Now that's a subjective experience, but the truth is, is that I don't think that unless I was creating my day to have unlimited thought, that that thought would've come."

I offer this article by Dr. Joe Dispenza as the kind of simple, yet powerful, example of how you might begin to create new neuro nets in the brain to counter an old addiction. I believe it can help create and reveal the you that has been wanting to surface. It's empowering. Try it. Remember, it's only a template that can be altered to fit you. Practice it in earnest, with dedication and humility. It will begin to change you and open a door for creative thought. It's fun, too.
Blessings,
Grace


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Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Giggle

from Wonderful Ways to Love a Child by Judy Ford

Children are the merriment makers. With their miniature bodies they giggle and run and roll, they bounce and move all over the place. They wiggle when you hold them and they've got such exuberant energy that when they enter a room you notice. They like to touch and taste everything. And they can look you in the you in the eye with such charming honesty that for a second you don't know for sure what to do. There are so many things to be tickled about. Washing those sticky little fingers and soft little chins can bring a smile to any sourpuss.

Life is full of the ridiculous, and children have a knack for seeing it everywhere. Four-year-old Annie was the smartest little girl. An adult asked her on day, "Do you have a boyfriend?" She looked at him; ran to her mother's side, started laughing, and answered, "That's a funny question." Then she giggled some more. Mom giggled too because it was such a silly question.

Giggling starts as a ripple and may expand into a deep belly laugh. It's truly therapeutic, relaxing, and calming. With a little laughter you're free to enjoy the absurd. Kids are quick to laugh, and you don't have to be a comedian to entertain them. Little kids, especially, will laugh at just about anything–just give them an excuse. A sill face or an absurd comment can elicit shrieks of delight, especially coming from you.

Sandy took a van full of third graders to the park. While driving down the road, the kids laughed and waved at the passers-by. Some grouches ignored the kids, but other folds smiled, honked their horns, and waved too; and then the kids laughed louder. If a kid waves a you, wave back; itʼs a very easy way to spread a lot of happiness around.

Never squelch those giggles. If you find that you haven't felt giddy for a while, try talking gibberish or singing a nonsensical tune to break the ice; the reaction you get from your child will certainly keep the momentum going. And if you have really forgotten how to giggle, invite a team of thirteen-year-old girls to afternoon tea. That will surely get things going in the giggling direction.

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Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Healing Power of Laughter

How Marx Brothers Brought Norman Cousins Back to Life

Article on blogspot of Joe Guse.

http://thehealingpoweroflaughter.blogspot.com/2007/07/how-marx-
brothers-brought-norman.html


Of all the research I've done on the healing power of laughter; none has failed to top the amazing story of Norman Cousins, as his life truly speaks to the incredible power of laughter. Having read several varying legends about Cousin's actual story, I decided to read his book Anatomy of an Illness and get to the source of the legend of the man who claimed to have literally laughed his way back to health.

His story began in 1964, where doctors found that the connective tissue in his spine was deteriorating, which a condition is known as Ankylosing Spondylitis. The doctors, one of whom was a close friend of Cousins, speculated that his chance of survival was approximately 1 in 500.

Faced with the real prospect of his impending death, Cousins thought long and hard about what role, if any he could play in his own recovery, and eventually did three things utterly contrary to medical opinion.

First he began his own research on all of the various drugs he was on. He discovered that his condition was depleting his body of Vitamin C and, based primarily on Cousins' personal research, doctors agreed to take him off several of the drugs he was on and inject him with extremely large doses of this supplement, as Cousins felt this may be his last hope.

Secondly, Cousins made a decision to check himself out the hospital and into a hotel room. Cousin's had concluded that hospitals, with their haphazard hygiene practices, culture of over-medication, general feelings of negativity, and routines that disrupted basic sleep patterns, all contributed to his feeling that, in his words a hospital was "no place for a person who is seriously ill."

The third thing Cousin's did was procure a movie projector and a large supply of funny films, including numerous Candid Camera tapes and several old prints of Marx Brother's movies. On his first night in the hotel Cousins found that he laughed so hard at the films that he was able to stimulate chemicals in his body that allowed him several hours of pain free sleep. When the pain would return he would simply turn the projector back on and the laughter would re-induce sleep, and he was able to measure the changes in his body by measuring his blood sedimentation rate, a key measurement of inflammation and infection in the blood, and found that this rate dropped by at least 5 points each time he watched one of these videos,

Now off every drug excepting Vitamin C and laughter, Cousins described being in a state of euphoria over the next week as he continued to laugh himself back to health. Within a few weeks the beloved editor was back to work at the Saturday Review, and, although he still had some minor physical difficulties, his body continued to recover as he continued with his self- directed wellness program.

How in the world did this happen? In exploring this question it is interesting to consider Cousin's own state of mind, and how much his personal will to live as well as his personal attitudes contributed to his miraculous recovery. While in the hospital Cousins hypothesized that if negative emotions such as anger and frustration could contribute to poor health, why couldn't positive emotions such as joy and laughter have the opposite effect? Cousins soon embraced this idea, and this contributed to an optimistic attitude that may very well have saved his life.

So could Cousin's recovery be considered a mechanism of the placebo effect? In answering this question Cousins himself spoke to famous endocrinologist Ana Aslan who posited that creativity was the central trigger of the placebo effect, as it sets up a chain of events in the body's systems that eventually restores homeostasis and feelings of wellness, The implications of this assertion are potentially enormous, and certainly deserves further study.

In analyzing the potential placebo affect in his own case, Cousins attributed much of his own success to the close personal friendship and relationship he had with his doctor who fully supported his contributions to his own recovery and encouraged his highly experimental approach despite it not fitting with his preconceived medical model.

This idea once again speaks to the power of the relationship between doctor and patient, which is now nearly universally accepted and statistically verified as the single most important predictor of positive outcomes in talk therapy. But could this also be true for physicians and patients in the world of medicine? A great deal of research seems to suggest that it is, and Cousin's case certainly speaks to this idea.

Most fascinating about Cousin's story though is the laughter.

Despite intense pain and discomfort, Cousin's made a point of
laughing so hard his stomach hurt during the early stages of his Marx brother's intervention, and this "unquenchable" laughter never failed to produce a strong reduction in his feelings of pain.


Cousins goes on to mention many prominent thinkers throughout the ages who knew about the healing power of laughter, and this list includes Sir Frances Bacon, Immanuel Kant, Sigmund Freud, as well as the great Albert Schweitzer. This list could be much longer, and Cousins own story has given rise to many knew ways of thinking that helped contribute to the rise of phenomena such as the laughter club.

Ultimately laughter may represent the rapture of the human spirit,
and in finding this rapture we also find our way back to health.


Norman Cousins certainly thought so, and his journey back to life
through laughter is an inspiration to us all.

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Tuesday, June 22, 2010

LORD CHESTERFIELD

Dude of Doom & Gloom – Sturm und Drang
(a guy so bad, we have to say it in German)


I found these quotations which startled me. I did a double take:
Was I seeing straight!?

There is nothing so illiberal, and so ill-bred, as audible laughter.
–Lord Chesterfield


Frequent, loud laughter is characteristic of ill manners.
–Lord Chesterfield


His life spilled out in my imagination. This could not have been pretty! Even worse than I thought. Oh, lordy, Lord Chesterfield:

Chesterfield was selfish, calculating and contemptuous; he was not naturally generous, and he practiced dissimulation till it became part of his nature. In spite of his brilliant talents and of the admirable training he received, his life, on the whole, cannot be pronounced a success.

Lord Chesterfield Biography from Basic Famous People -Biographies...

Jeez Louise, what more do we need! Gimme a belly laugh, quick!

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  • BLOG #3 • JUNE 29 • THE HEALING POWER OF LAUGHTER
    How the Marx Brothers Brought Norman Cousins Back to Life

  • BLOG #4 • JULY 6 • GIGGLE from Wonderful Ways to Love a Child

Monday, June 14, 2010

ANALYSIS OF A LAUGH

What Made Baby Thea Laugh?

What Made Baby Thea Laugh?


is a story I have in this June Newsletter. If you would like it and it's not in the Archives, sign up here for future newsletters, and send me an email request.

ANALYSIS OF A LAUGH (few snippets from Wikipedia)


A general theory that explains laughter is called the relief theory. Sigmund Freud summarized it in his theory that laughter releases tension and psychic energy. This theory is one of the justifications of the beliefs that laughter is beneficial for one's health. This theory explains why laughter can be as a coping mechanism for when one is upset, angry or sad.

Philosopher John Morreall theorizes that human laughter may have its biological origins as a kind of relief at the passing of danger.

This is how this theory works in the case of humor: a joke creates an inconsistency, the sentence (or action) appears to be not relevant, and we automatically try to understand what the sentence (action) says, supposes, doesn't say, and implies; if we are successful in solving this 'cognitive riddle', and we find out what is hidden within the sentence, and what is the underlying thought, and we bring foreground what was in the background, and we realize that the surprise wasn't dangerous, we eventually laugh with relief.

Otherwise, if the inconsistency is not resolved, there is no laugh, as Mack Sennett pointed out: when the audience is confused, it doesn't laugh (this is the one of the basic laws of a comedian, called exactness). The extent of the inconsistency (timing, rhythm, etc.) has to do with the amount of danger we feel, and thus how hard or long we laugh.

The look on her face, in Thea's photo, demonstrates clearly that her developing mind was in process of solving a cognitive riddle, an inconsistency. There was possible danger being processed. Somewhere within those three seconds of staring (after my double-take in the story), she resolved the conundrum. And because she laughed so hard and so long, it is assured that the success achieved was huge. She realized that the surprise was not, in fact, dangerous at all! A joke evolved her brain and health.

HIDE AND SEEK


Analyzing a laugh, is also related to, and resolves my personal, 21 year old cognitive riddle regarding a child's most primitive and persistent game – Hide and Seek! For me, the riddle was always Why this game? What's so intense and intriguing for them?
I'll throw my thoughts out there. From infancy till she was about ten, my daughter seemed obsessed. Every day we had to do the game over and over: under the covers, behind doors, through windows, hiding in closets, under the sink till she could barely fit, in the dryer...! Endless.

But now, if I'm in line in a store and there is an infant in front of me, I am programmed to jump into the ritual: I gently and very clearly smile at them, cover my eyes, wait two seconds, then gently, but suddenly, lift up my hand, peek-a-boo, and smile. There is always a response. The response varies in intensity, but I get one! I know there is a certain skill in doing this for maximizing the effect (i.e. one of the basic laws of a comedian, called "exactness", timing, cleanness of movement, rhythm, etc.). Kids aren't fussy, they just want to laugh at any old thing!

Listen: I believe there is, for them, a clear Danger that the person has disappeared. And when you remove the cover, it is a Surprise, a delight, a relief, and a release of Psychic Energy, which both stimulates the brain to find a solution, i.e., brain development, and also releasing something akin to endorphins, I bet. Laughter, so beneficial to health. We grow out of it. Grow back into it!

Listen: Kids are always looking for the next laugh. Thea, at 21, still is, and I have used her as my role model. Now I am always looking for the next laugh, too! Thank you, Thea. My daughter also adores Tickle Fights. When I asked her Why?, she welled up with tears. I waited. She looked at me after a few minutes and quietly whispered, It's Love. If that isn't gorgeous, what is?

Thea has become a booming, shrieking, gasping-for-breath laughter. Whenever he hears anybody laugh like that, her friend, Mark Kieth, calls it doing a Thea.


ADULTS AND HIDE & SEEK


Here's another thing: I think the ramifications of Hide and Seek go way deeper and persist into adulthood, as a basic primitive Calling, if you will. I believe this game, Hide and Seek, is part of our creative fabric. It EGGS US ON.

EGGS US ON


We are made in the Image and Likeness of Source Energy, which does nothing but Create. We are Chips-off-the-old-block.
We ain't gonna be happy unless we do the same! Egged on!
Source Energy creates effortlessly, that's the difference! But we are down here pushing our own envelopes. So when we attempt to Create, manifest a new desire, there is a sense of risk, danger. We get the Inner Nay-sayers playing inner videos of Doom and Destruction. For the sake of brevity, isn't this what keeps us from saying YES! It's the Ego, of course. Outrageous simplification, but the Ego is meant to protect us, keep us from crossing the street when there's a truck six feet away. We need to tell the Ego to Shut Up! when we're going for something we want to manifest in our lives! We're not going to disappear or die in the process of seeking to express and evolve ourselves. There's No Danger. Hey you, out there, Listen: Laugh much more. Keep your powder dry, keep on dancing, take on the ear-piercing street smarts of Ethel Merman in Gypsy, Sing out, Louise!

I see Hide & Seek as the Dance of Creative Life. Of us as
Creators. We put ourselves at Risk, in Danger (not really), waiting
for the Payoff Success and Relief. We're pushing the envelope.
IT'S WHERE LIFE IS. OUT THERE ON THE LEADING EDGE,
HON. WHERE THERE'S NEVER A CROWD!


REMINDER
Laughter is the language of God.
–Yakov Smirnoff
God is a comedian, playing to an audience too afraid to laugh.
–Voltaire
Laughter is the closest thing to the Grace of God.
–Karl Barth
Laughter springs from the lawless part of our nature.
–Agnes Repplier
Laughter is the Renegade Grace of God.
–Grace Kingsley
God is continuously laughing his•her ass off.
-Grace Kingsley


Upcoming weekly installations:


  • BLOG #2 • JUNE 22 • LORD CHESTERFIELD
    Dude of Doom & Gloom – Sturm und Drang
    (a guyʼ so bad, we have to say it in German)

  • BLOG #3 • JUNE 29 • THE HEALING POWER OF LAUGHTER
    How the Marx Brothers Brought Norman Cousins Back to Life

  • BLOG #4 • JULY 6 • GIGGLE from Wonderful Ways to Love a Child